Love & Thanks

If you follow me on Instagram you know we had a really shit week.

It’s too long a story, but Harry has been having issues with sleep, feeding, etc for awhile. I went to the pediatrician six weeks ago and told him I really felt something was wrong, and he sent us to occupational therapy to help with his feedings. At each of those appointments I reiterated I felt this was a breathing problem, not a feeding issue, but nada. Then finally last week I asked to see another Doctor in the practice and after a few basic tests we were sent to Texas Childrens Hospital where we were checked in for two days while more intensive tests were run. We have a diagnosis, and the good news is that it is something they think he will grow out of in 2-12 years. The bad news is, well, the whole thing is bullshit bad news really.

I just can’t believe we are going through this again. When we found out about Grace, it sent our life into complete upheaval. Pete quit his job, we sold our house, moved from Chicago to Texas, and a lot of the past three years has been spent trying to put the pieces back again. I am trying to keep a positive attitude, we are so lucky in so many ways, but if I am honest I am feeling a little defeated right now.

And I would love to be able to share more about what we are dealing with. With children’s health issues I have seen a lot of times the hopeful cases move on and don’t share their stories, and the tragedies try to find a community of support- often online. When Grace was diagnosed I spent hours on the internet looking for hope, and all I found were the saddest stories imaginable. Googling your childs health issues is dark and lonely enough, it would be nice if some positivity was in the mix.

When we decided to share what we were going through with Grace my intention was to spread awareness, and also provide a hopeful testimonial amidst all of the heartbreak. And that did happen, I have spent the past few years emailing with moms going through what we went through. It made me feel productive during a time when all I could really do was wait and see.

And I wish we could do that again- I have already had someone reach out based on our Instagram who is a few years ahead of us in the diagnosis and it has meant everything, but I just can’t. For a lot of reasons- this blog isn’t the same environment it was three years ago, and I am not the same parent I was then either.

So what now? I have been working at an unrealistic pace for the past two years, and I have to take better care of myself so I can take better care of my family. I am overextended, and I can do whatever it takes to keep up with my responsibilities day to day, but I am left with no extra bandwidth to cope when things go wrong. I need to simplify, and unfortunately that means taking a break from this blog place that has meant so much to me. I am so grateful for everything this blog and all of you have given me, but I need to focus on my family.

I don’t want to leave anyone hanging or be disrespectful to the tremendous support y’all have so generously given me, so I wanted to sign off properly.  When I started this blog I had moved to a new city and was starting to work as the assistant to an interior designer- I didn’t have much direction or ambition, nor did I ever consider that I had the talent to actually do design work on my own. Through all of our transitions the encouragement from all of you inspired me to work harder and dream bigger and I cannot believe all of the goodness that has brought. I am so grateful for all of you, and I will check back in here if/when I have any great work to share, but I have to focus on my private life.

So for now, I gotta go. So much love and thanks.

xoxo

Bailey

***Update***

I have received several emails from moms worried their children/babies might have Harry’s condition based on the things I have posted previously about his development. Harry’s primary issue isn’t sleep- it has to do with his breathing and I have always thought- and now have confirmed- that his sleeping and feeding issues are related to his breathing. When Harry breathes the area around his clavicle at the base of his neck collapses, and his whole body looks like it is retracting/working hard. That isn’t always what his condition looks like, but that is what clued us in to this as a breathing issue.

If you feel like your babies/children might have the same condition or similar symptoms, email me any time and I am more than happy to discuss privately what led us to his diagnosis. On a really general level if you are concerned about your child and our situation is raising red flags, have your pediatrician do a pulse oximetry test- it is completely non invasive and measures their blood oxygen saturation levels. That was the first thing the doctor we went to for our second opinion did that indicated something was off. The second is to have your doctor listen to their lungs, and if either of those two things are abnormal, a chest x-ray would be the next step. Again- email me if you want to discuss further, I would be more than happy to share what got us here privately. From what we have learned so far his condition is often misdiagnosed, and is likely not as rare as has been reported.

Thank you all so much for the kind comments and emails, I am humbled by all of your support.

xoxo

Before & After: Harry’s Nursery

Y’all, Harry is four months old.

5N2A7643

Looks just like his Daddy. So handsome, my HarrBear Magoo.

And I still haven’t shown the “after” on his nursery- but luckily Molly was in town this past weekend and generously lent her skills so I can finally show all of you good people what we have going on in there.

5N2A7661

5N2A7675

5N2A7663

5N2A7671

5N2A7703

5N2A7726

5N2A7708

5N2A7713

5N2A7723

5N2A7678

So what to say about Harry’s nursery? I love it so so much. I have had my baby boys room in my head since we first found out we were pregnant with Grace and were convinced she was a boy. This post was over three years ago, that’s a long time to hold on to a decorating vision when you are surrounded by this stuff day in day out. The wallpaper on the ceiling has always been the glue of the concept- and was the reason why we named our constellation print at Biscuit the “Harold”.

I did a version of this room at our house in Austin, and still wanted to give it another go here. Because we already had so many of the big elements in place- the wall color, ceiling wallpaper, ceiling fixture and rug it didn’t take a lot to bring the room together. The plan changed from my first dream of it years ago, but came together surprisingly easily.  Except for the daybed- ugh the daybed. Dumb pregnant me forgot to measure to see if it would fit through the door, which it then did not, and highly emotional pregnant me was more than displeased.

But! It ended up being a happy accident, the old daybed lives at Biscuit now in our “children’s” section, and the Restoration Hardware piece we ended up choosing actually lightens up the space in a way I think we would have been missing with my original design.

What else do we have going on here? The crib is RHBaby- I reupholstered the side panels- and I SUPERHATE this crib. The highest setting is way too low and the side rails are way too high and it has been clumsy at best getting him in and out all the time, especially after my c-section. Thanks a lot, RH!

The bookcases on either side are these, and are bolted to the wall, dontcha worry. We have some fun treasures on them, but I have to say all of the precious nursery styling takes a hit on baby number 2. Harry has our Marfa crib sheet, and bedding on his bed, paired with a serape and some throw pillows.

I wanted to have an area for Grace to play in here, and she loves “her” teepee and Big Bear. The rug is vintage and was in our living room in Chicago and family room in Austin, the glider is one from the pair we had in Grace’s nursery recovered in a Scalamandre fabric. The pouf, lamp, and changing table are all reused from Grace’s nursery as well, and the antique shelves over the changing table were in our other guest room, I just repainted the back panel.

I really love and am proud of how all of the different textiles and recycled elements came together, it is such a happy little boy room that will grow with our guy.

I hope you like, and let me know if I can answer any questions!

**UPDATE**

I just got a very nice and sincere email from a concerned reader suggesting we remove the Warhol Custer print, another comment on here politely referenced the issue as well so I thought I should address it.

The reason we chose the print is because of our favorite quote from Royal Tenenbaums: “Everyone knows that General Custer died at The Battle of Little Bighorn, what this book pre-supposes is…Maybe he didn’t”? It is one of Pete’s and my silly couple things, and Pete gave me the print as a baby present after seeing my design for the room. That said, I know art can be divisive and while I don’t always think that is a bad thing- I don’t want anyone to be hurt or offended thinking we are glorifying such a controversial historical figure. I think context is important, and in this case I should have realized not everyone would be familiar with this particular piece of art.

“Warhol interspersed recognizable portraits of well-known American “heroes”–John Wayne, Annie Oakley, Teddy Roosevelt, and General George Custer–with less familiar Native American images and motifs in his ironic commentary on Americans’ collective mythologizing of the historic West. Rather than portraying Native Americans within their historical landscape or Cowboys in their veritable forms, Warhol chose to portray a popular, romanticized version of the American West. The West that he chose to represent is familiar to everyone and can be seen in novels, films, TV series. Warhol’s Cowboys and Indians Suite is an ahistorical representation that mirrors a popular interpretation of the American West.
Andy Warhol created the Cowboys and Indians series during the mid-1980s, arguably his most prolific period. During this time, Warhol was forming bonds with a number of younger artists in the New York art scene including Jean-Michel Basquiat, Julian Schnabel and David Salle. Warhol saw a re-emergence of critical and financial success during this period of his life.” -via

If you still don’t think we should have the piece in there, that is ok. It’s not for everyone. But please know I’m not being willfully ignorant or coming from a bad place.

All photos by MBM for Peppermint Bliss

Father’s Day Gift Guide

We have a whole wonderful “Mens” section at the new location, and it is always so fun to help people pick out gifts for the special gents in their lives. Father’s Day is coming up, and I wanted to share some of the pairings we have been suggesting in the store.

Sailor DadDad loves hunting fishing outdoors fathers day gift guide

1. Wine Stopper 2. Nautical Soaps 3. Ship Tray 4. Rope Tray 5. Three Sheets Cocktail Napkins 6. Knot Coasters 7. Nautical Decanter and glasses 8. Anchor Flask 9. Gulf Coasters

Outdoorsman Dad

 

Dad Loves Sailing Nautical Fathers Day Gift Guide

1. Dad Whiskey Stones 2. Jack Black 3. Chief Coffee Mug 4. Mallard Flask 5. Shotgun Shell Key Chain 6. Fishing Stories 7. National Park Blanket 8. Candle

Golfer Dad

Dad Loves Golf Fathers Day Gift Guide

1. Golf Whiskey Stones 2. Club Tray 3. Golf Ball Paper Weight 4. Tartan Wallet 5. Legendary Golf Clubhouses 6. Clubhouse Candle

Wedding Wednesday!

Thank you for the kindness on the last post- we tried to repaint this week but the rain wiped us out and we are going to have to wait a few weeks and start over. Anyway…onward!

And about the title of this post…I meant to publish yesterday. WhoopsieDaisies.

Pete and I have lived in a lot of different places in our nearly ten years together, and we feel extremely fortunate to have cultivated and maintained a few really special relationships from each stage that have endured over distance and time. The longest of these friendships we share is with Christina- the roommate I was assigned to my freshman year of college.

72_511440427174_5990_n

Me and my beloved Stina Freshman year of college…

Those of you who have been reading here for awhile might remember Christina’s role in helping us start Biscuit. She is a huge light in my life, and we were thrilled to travel to Aix en Provence late last summer to celebrate her marriage to her love Paul (namesake of the Paul print).

I can’t believe we are rapidly approaching the one year anniversary- I was four months pregnant at the time and now I have a four month old HarryBear! Ohhhh time.

Anyway, the whole experience was truly unbelievable- and not just because it was in Fancy Francy. Although, as you will see from the pictures, it was stunning and so nice, at its core the whole wedding was about love and family. Christina’s family is from Provence, and she, Paul, and her incredible Mom planned every last detail. I meant to show pictures at the time, but my iPhone pics weren’t going to cut it, and it wasn’t until Stina shared the link to the Style Me Pretty feature that I remembered I never shared.

Here is what Stina had to say about it all:

“It’s hard to start with just the rehearsal dinner since it came from our overall vision for the whole experience – to bring our family and friends from all parts of our life together for a weekend that let them experience all our favorite things – art, music, culture in a place that means a lot to me and to Paul.

I have grown up visiting my family in Aix en Provence and traveling around the south of France and it was on a family trip there that Paul proposed to me in the summer of 2012. At that point coming back to France for our wedding seemed like a pipe dream but months later after exhaustive research on a variety of places that would allow us to transport our guests to a magical space AND allow for LATE night revelry, we decided to go for it.

It helps to have a bi-lingual and generally badass mother who was our fearless leader throughout the many months of creative and logistical planning. One of the many unbelievable contributions she made was to find the venue for our rehearsal dinner – Les Carrières des Lumières. It is a national culture site in the ancient mineral quarries of Les Baux de Provence which is itself a historic treasure – a medieval village perché. The geniuses of France have transformed the cavernous and cold walls of this mining site into an utterly breathtaking show of sound and light projecting animated works of art by the likes of Monet, Renoir and others on the walls, ceiling and floor.

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (13 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (14 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (16 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (25 of 1235)

We never actually saw this until the actual event – we actually visited in the dead of January and wandered through what was basically a cold cave, one that required us to bus our guests an hour through winding Provencal roads to visit. This is one time in my life where my optimism was tested…but ultimately prevailed and fueled many late nights back at home mood boarding and figuring out how to make it amazing. 

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (103 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (40 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (125 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (159 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (150 of 1235)

My vision was to create a living still life of Provence – something that would be like walking into a Cezanne painting. My flower choices were limited so I went with olive trees and bundles of lavender interspersed with silver candelabras and tumbling pedestals of fruit – pulled off with much flair by our wedding planner Sandrine. I also chose a funky collection of glasses in alternating colors to add more color and made escort cards from mini laser cut wooden palettes that I personally stained and calligraphed. LABOR OF LOVE! 

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (123 of 1235)

When I think back on that night I am bowled over with joy – simply being there with everyone we love in one place and then listening to so many of our friends and family deliver heartfelt and hilarious speeches was above and beyond my wildest dreams. “
Stunnniinnggg, and that was just the rehearsal dinner. Here are a few more pics from the wedding day, but you can see it all and here more about it on SMP.
OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (441 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (434 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (626 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (703 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (981 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (1148 of 1235)

OneandOnlyParisPhotographyChristinaPaul (1179 of 1235)

And by the way…The party went on until sunrise (without my pregnant self who snuck off to bed around 2:00 am) and the Bride and Groom danced all night. So much love!

I feel like Joey Potter.

Which normally would be an excellent thing, and the achievement of the central goal in my life from 2000-2004, but right now- not so much. Because I feel like Joey in episode 315: Crime & Punishment.

What? You don’t remember the plot summary off the top of your head? Ok. Fine.

It was the one where Joey was commissioned by Principal Green to paint a mural that represented her high school experience, and she obviously took it SUPER seriously because, like me, Joey is a total TryHard (when did that become a bad thing? was it the OC?) and before the unveiling she gives this highly emotional speech about the importance of possibility and how that is what her mural represents:

photo 2

And she is full on baby voiced, side mouth talking, lovable Joey, so you know she is about to get kicked in her optimistic little puppy face. And then…

Ruined.

photo 5

And Dawson is like…

photo 3

And everyone else is like…

photo 4

And Joey is like…

photo 1

And then she runs away.

Welp…
video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo player

Pretty much exactly like Joey- complete with the weird talking out of the side of my mouth thing.

Such a bummer, but not to worry. We are already back to work repainting it and will take steps to prevent it from happening again.

photo-5

Because sometimes you just have to be the Pacey to your Joey and save your own damn day.