Wedding Wednesday: Engagement Photos

After much internet searching I have determined that Engagement Photos ARE  in fact a real (if not a more recent) thing you do when you get married. I really thought our wedding planner was just effing with us, because honestly, you could not imagine two people more awkward in a photoshoot situation. We were both already kind of dreading the posing for pictures at the wedding itself, but figured we would be all hopped up on LOVE goofballs and feel a bit more natural.

So now our photographer, with whom we get an engagement session included in the price of booking him regardless, and who am I to pass up free vanity…is coming out to Chicago in a week to do this so-called “engagement session”. And I have zero ideas of what to do.

Because who wouldn’t want beautiful, art-y pics of you and your special manfriend.

But WHO just naturally sets them selves up for a shot like this?

This is mostly what I tend to look like in candids:

Maybe they aren’t candid and you just ham it up and work the camera?

There are certainly a few prevailing trends:

The look-away hand hold:


Passionate Kisses/Intimate Moments:

And they are all lovely…but here is the thing. Pete and I never hold hands, its a clammy situation, and I don’t really need a picture of us posed American Gothic style clammed on. So that is out. And balloons…Meh? I mean I feel like they are cute and joyful but kind of done by now. Intimate moments/passionate kisses are ALWAYS my faves, but the idea we would just like sit there and canoodle while a guy takes pics sounds just too much like a porn-y sand dog situation.

I just don’t think we will feel comfortable enough to be natural in front of the cam, and even so, we have a severe lack of wildflower fields that I know of around these parts!

These too fools seem WAY more our speed. She is mimicking my dances moves/enthusiasm pretty much perfectly, and the threat of shirt removal is very Pete- except with Pete it is not so much a threat but a certainty.

Anyway. Who has ideas for unusual spots in Chicago to take our so called “Love Shoot”? Thoughts on how to chill out and be yourself? What you imagine Pete and I will be doing in our pics? Is drinking during them a bad idea?

Help me, Rhonda.

Photos: Once WedSnippet and Ink


  1. Katharine July 28, 2010 at 8:33 am

    I’m all over this for you. I got married in 2007 and this wasn’t the craze then. What if you two go to a diner and sip straws? Pics of you guys at favorite restaurants goofing with food? Something in front of that shiny bean??? Playing Cards? Playing Xbox? (older family might not enjoy that) At the movies with popcorn??? I’m on an image search…get ready to get flooded!

  2. Connie @ Sogni e Sorrisi July 28, 2010 at 11:08 am

    Engagement pics were part of our package and at first I was all like, “Uh uh, hells no.” But my photog said it would be a good way to get used to one another so we did them. They actually came out pretty good considering. Arty even. Some I would even consider having in my house (and I am anti-blown-up-couple-photo-on-wall) if I had ever gotten around to ordering them.

    Yep. Me <—- Worst. Bride. Ever.

  3. Nicole July 28, 2010 at 11:22 am

    Go to your favorite places/do your favorite things! It will make you feel more comfortable. Also, your photographer will tell you what to do, so only worry about what specific shots you want if you have some in mind. You’ll feel uncomfortable at first, but eventually you’ll get over it. There’s no way you won’t have at least 3-4 cute pics because they take a ton! So feel comfortable knowing that at least you’ll have those to show off :) Just pick up some cute outfits and don’t worry–no matter what, they’ll be a reflection of the both of you.

  4. Maggie July 28, 2010 at 11:43 am

    I like Katharine (never seen someone else with the second ‘a’ – way to go!)’s suggestions… I have a few others as well. What about Navy Pier, or the botanical garden… or where you met, where your first date was, anywhere the two of you spend time together. The bottom line is just to HAVE A GOOD TIME with each other and trust that the photographer will capture good images of fun and sweet moments. It’s a great idea to try to get comfortable with your particular photographer, because then you’ll be less likely to focus on him and his camera on W-day. :) Good luck!

  5. pure.ruth July 28, 2010 at 12:11 pm

    get in the spirit of things my little peppermint pureness!

    go on a riverboat thing and take pics w/ Chicago sky line in the background (duh stole that from the recent episode of bachelorette)

    go to beautiful hinsdale and take pics on petey’s lovely front porch…HELLO. those white rocking chairs = pureness

    get your bum over to a bakery and do a jessica simpson style cupcake shoot (ok this one was a joke )

  6. Brittany July 28, 2010 at 12:38 pm

    Eat ice cream together!!!

  7. ashlina July 28, 2010 at 3:25 pm

    cuuuuute! i am just dying to see yours….so exciting! how is my little BQ????

  8. Taylor W July 28, 2010 at 4:36 pm

    1. I love you
    2. I mees you and I can’t wait until September
    3. I totally think you should get the puppies involved. Thats lovey dovey right?

  9. Helena - A Diary of Lovely July 29, 2010 at 9:14 am

    hahaha love the last one, I bet yours will end up looking amazing honey!! You guys have it in you :)

  10. betsy July 29, 2010 at 10:10 am

    Have fun with it! Since you are not getting married in Chicago..It might be fun to do some shots by famous chicago landmarks….You can get great shots on the lake my the museums…the bean, chicago theatre, financial district (on a saturday you should be able to get shots in the middle of the road), under the L in the loop on lake street etc..
    check out my cousins photo blog…He has some great shots in Chicago.

    No matter what…be yourself and they will turn out great! Betsy

  11. cara @ City Girl Chicago July 29, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    Bailey! I agree with many comments above ~ just be yourself and look at it as a chance to get comfortable with your photographer and being in front of the camera SO much your jaw will hurt from smiling :) Don’t do anything cheesy, and don’t follow the trends, they are trends for a reason and will soon look dated. Just do things (go places) that are meaningful to you and the pictures will always be meaningful to you. But most of all, just have a ton of fun!! :D

  12. Chic Coles July 30, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    You are so funny! I thoroughly enjoyed reading what you were writing. These photo shoots are so difficult because they are always so posed and awkward. Can’t wait to see what you come up with!

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